As a mother of a special child with Down Syndrome and autism, I used to often worry about my child’s IQ. During his toddler days, I used to meet my friends, relatives and people from surrounding areas with their so-called normal babies. I used to start comparing them with my child, his development, his milestone achievements and so on. But now I can tell you that IQ scores never represent your child irrespective of whether he is a special child or a normal child.
Normally IQ tests are intended to measure one’s educational skills. Your child may not be good in language development, logistics and calculus but he may be excellent in arts, music and mechanical ability. Just focus on what your child loves to do. All children have their own way of learning. One child may start walking at an age as early as ten months but as seen with my son Rex, he took his first step when he was almost three years old.
Because of the distinctive physical characteristics, children with Down Syndrome often take long to master the same proficiency other children acquire. But here you must remember that instead of spoon-feeding your child let him learn through trial and error. For example, your child may take five rounds sitting in a wheeled walker but he would do better if you encourage him to walk along with you while holding his hands. All these things look easy but it takes a great effort and a lot of patience initially but you will be rewarded in your child’s progress.
As my son was growing, I tried to learn his strengths and weaknesses. I even tried to learn his mood swings and temperament. This way I was able to extend him better help. Since I was aware about the faltering blocks, I was well prepared to overcome those hurdles. Here I remember one of his old pediatricians who used to very often remind me that these special children are like trains moving on a slow track, and not fast frontier mails. That too, very often on these slow tracks there will be signal failures, overhead wire problem and so on.
But finally they will reach to their destination. So true, there are lots and lots of barriers but they can be overcome by putting in your full effort and having an optimistic attitude. Some of you are already familiar with the challenges of special children. Having a special child itself is not dreadful, but not understanding their needs and not getting the right help that is available out there for your child can be awful.
Calista Miranda (Smart courageous Mom)
Below are some resources that will help you with your Down’s Syndrome Child
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